Seeing Real

Learning to balance – Heart Mind Body

23 Jun 2017

“To come to ground is to find a home in circumstances and in the very physical body we inhabit in the midst of those circumstances and above all to face the truth, no matter how difficult that truth maybe; to come to ground is to begin the courageous conversation, to step into difficulty and by taking that first step, begin the movement through all difficulties, to find the support and foundation that has been beneath our feet all along: a place to step onto, a place on which to stand and a place from which to step”. David Whyte –  [ Read More ]

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27 May 2015

There is a lot of mystery when it comes to God and how we relate to someone we can’t see, feel or touch. If we can find true things about God make mystery a little less mysterious.  Asking questions is the start to finding those true things about God that we can use as anchor points in our elusive relationship with the creator. In my questioning process, I have a very important question to ask:  Did God create us with the power to change our identity with how we act, what we do, or what we believe?  If he did  [ Read More ]

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15 May 2015

Risk God put everything at risk when he created us, even his ability to control what he had made. He did this for the very best of reasons – love. To love or be loved without any coercion or manipulation is the very best love. To be loved just because you are you, well, there is just no better way. God knew this when he created, risk was the only way to accomplish this. The risk was that what he brought in to being might reject him. True love has to be chosen, has to be free. Risk and choice  [ Read More ]

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5 Mar 2013

“And I Thought, This is the good day you could meet your love, this is the gray day someone close to you could die. This is the day you realize how easily the thread is broken between this world and the next . . .             excerpt from The House of Belonging by David Whyte   In this poem lies the tension for approaching reality, facing each coming day, each second that passes.  What is around the corner, what is ahead, what is behind?  Is it a friend or foe?  Will I be okay?  Will I be  [ Read More ]

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24 Oct 2012

Early on in my theological training, I learned that the literal meaning of the word “sin”, was “missing the mark”. As I thought about the definition, I pictured an arrow sticking in a target somewhere outside of the bullseye. I didn’t think much more about it and filed it away. Recently, as I have begun to chart a course for bringing more change into my life, I have been thinking more about the “sin” word, and its literal meaning. The two meanings seem to have different reactions, sin causes a negative reaction, inside I feel like I’m hanging my head,  [ Read More ]

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22 Oct 2012

It doesn’t take us long to find out there is pain in life. We first experience pain when hunger pangs strike us and we cry to alert someone we need food. Then we start to learn to walk, and we quickly find out that falling hurts. Some of us learned pain when we did something wrong, and received a spanking. We also learned that touching something hot needed to be avoided at all costs. We all learn eventually, that any pain should be avoided any way you can. For some reason, I began to adopt a style around avoiding pain.  [ Read More ]

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30 Apr 2012

Have you ever tried to hide something from yourself? It usually doesn’t work. The hope is that we would forget where we hid it, whether it’s a candy bar or some money we don’t want to spend. The degree of likelihood that this technique would work, gets higher as we get older and memory becomes less sharp. In spite of not having much success with this technique, I realized that I was still using it. I had developed a pattern of hiding parts of myself from others and in turn hiding from myself. As I began to look more closely  [ Read More ]

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25 Apr 2012

One of the reasons I connected with working with the Enneagram, is how it helped me deal with my shame. Growing up in a conservative, christian home and culture, I developed a strong shame grid. The dictionary definition connects shame with bad or inappropriate behavior. What the dictionary definition doesn’t reveal is how each person deals with the emotion and pressure of shame. We all have a natural reaction to present ourselves as good people. If we happen to do something bad, we would prefer that it didn’t end up on the evening news. This creates a tension in us  [ Read More ]

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12 Apr 2012

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness”. Declaration of Independence We have all heard these words from a really early age. Learning about our freedom is among the first things we learn in school. You have the right to pursue what makes you happy. It is part of living in a democracy. It doesn’t take long to find out that having the right to pursue doesn’t guarantee catching it. The Declaration of  [ Read More ]

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5 Apr 2012

A few years ago I decide to give up guilt and shame for lent. I found that it was very difficult to do. What I discovered was that guilt and shame were very closely connected with my Easter experiences. It is the time of year when we are encouraged to get serious with God. Year after year, we re-experience the pain and suffering that Christ endured (a point that should never be minimized or ignored). The goal being to remember the great price that was paid to gain our freedom (again, a point that should not be missed). One voice  [ Read More ]

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