Seeing Real

Learning to balance and change – WORK . LOVE . LIFE . YOU

This group identifies the different ways we manage our lives when we don’t get what we want or need. Loss and disappointment bring out our natural defense systems.


This triad responds to deficit with optimism, puts a positive spin on negative experiences. Positive reaction usually covers the painful emotions.

“I am a very caring person.”

“Why can’t we all just get along.”

“I can usually find the silver lining.”


This triad manages the bumps in the road with objectivity. They set aside subjective feeling and emotions with logical results.

“I don’t let feelings get in the way of doing my job.”

“Most problems can be solved through a practical logical approach.”

“I have a ‘nose to the grindstone’ attitude toward life.”


This triad has an emotional reaction with problems and conflicts. They trust and distrust at the same time. Need feedback to know here they stand.

“I have a clear view of what I like and don’t like.”

“At times, I can be guarded and play hard to get.”

“I need you to be as angry about this, as I am.”